I have a weird fetish, could it ruin my life?

Question

Okay, for the last 5 years I have developed a really bizarre humiliation fetish (verbal abuse, tease, denial, submission) especially FAT humiliation. Nothing is hotter to me than a fit, attractive girl making fun of me for being fat while showing off her body, mocking mine, comparing the two. I also enjoy small penis humiliation. Here's the thing, I am actually very fit now (but I used to be fat) and my penis is average (about 6+ inches when hard). I have even spent money on fat humiliation videos.
I feel like this is ruining my sex life. Whenever I have sex with my girlfriend, at first I am really turned on, but sometimes I can't climax unless I think about a fit girl making fun of us, like calling me or my girlfriend fat names. I jiggle my girlfriends body when I'm finishing because I imagine a skinny girl being repulsed by the flab. I feel sick when I do this too. My girlfriend really isn't fat (she could be in better shape, though) and like I said neither am I. What should I do about this? I go weeks without looking it up, out of sight, out of mind. The problem is I always come back to it. I'm only 22! This seems like something an old fat guy would be into. How do I destroy this demon before it ruins my sex life completely?

Answer 1

you should seek therapy--behavior or cognitive therapy should help you; behavior therapy will help your comport while cognitive will help your thinking process.



Fetishes arise from some need; need to be humiliate for fear of not meeting up to others expectations

Answer 2

Why don't you see if your GF will participate!





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She may just surprise you, given the chance. Don't know why she would get offended being the one calling you fat. Just tell her you'd like to be dominated and see where it goes from there.

Answer 3

i'm no psychologist but it sounds like you are connecting your own humiliation of when you were younger (when you were fat). a lot of people have more screwed up fetishes. I don't see the huge problem.