Why do I have a problem ejaculating when someone else gives me a handjob?

Question

Sorry if this question comes off an inappropriate, but I'm very troubled that I may have a sexual problem and I need feedback. In a couple of my relations I've had, my girlfriends offered to give me a handjob and sometimes, they don't do it right and I fail to ejaculate. Sometimes, I'm about to orgasm, then they get too rough and tug and pull or stop and it ruins everything. So, someones I can't ejaculate if they do it wrong. However, if I take over and do it myself, I ejaculate very quickly. All these girls claimed that they NEVER had this issue with guys they gave handjobs to in the past, so now I'm worried that I could have a problem.

Is this really a rare problem as these girls claim it is? Do I need to seek some sort of treatment or something?

Answer 1

I have the same problem. Men aren’t like women. Women need fingering to get off, men need intercourse to get off

Answer 2

Hmmm it's probably an intimacy thing or maybe you're just not into the person that's giving it to you? Is your penis in optimal shape, meaning have you been using a penis health creme to moisturize the organ and replenish the vitamins it regularly loses due to friction burn, etc? I'd recommend some- get a bottle called Man1 Man Oil- it's the absolute best. 

Answer 3

I agree.  Fuc in' and gettin' sucked are awesome.  But I do a much getter HJ than anyone else.  When to squeeze, when to ungrip for some blood flow... I do me better. 

Answer 4

There's a feedback loop in your brain when you masturbate that allows you to make adjustments to speed, intensity, grip, etc. - and it's simply not there when someone else gives you a handjob.



The times my wife has managed to get me off with just her hand, it's usually been along with (or after) a BJ or sex.

Answer 5

You are used to your own hand being used on your penis and you have adapted your method to get the best out of it. Any other person can only guess what you like best (and may not know how to do it even when they know what you like). You therefore get less stimulation from the 'strange' method and this can lead to not reaching orgasm.



Only by frequently using a variety of methods on yourself and also explaining very clearly what you prefer your gf to do will you get relaxed in that situation and enjoy it enough to get an orgasm and ejaculation.

Answer 6

tell them you prefer oral

Answer 7

Obviously they are not doing it the way your body wants.

Men are often very shy at giving directions.

Answer 8

I would have to wonder how many guys these girls have given handjobs to that they are able to make meaningful comparisons.



If they aren't stimulating you the way you like, tell or show them what you like.

Answer 9

Good question, I was wondering why myself.