Shy guys, do you think he likes me?

Question

Hey, this is a little bit long but please read, thanks in advance!

So there is this extremely shy boy at my school, he is a sophomore I am a freshman. I have a few classes with him and I sit by him at lunch, well across from him. The past few days I've been starting conversations with him saying what's up etc, he's realllly shy like I said, and he really doesn't say much back, lately he's SORT of been opening up a little bit more. I kept trying to steal his assignment notebook and write things in it the other day so he took mine and wrote "_____ is mean" on a few pages, jokingly of course, and lately I've been trying to steal his from him at lunch and he laughs and doesn't let me get it. Today I tried not to talk to him that much to see if he'd talk to him, it was about a fourth/half through the lunch period and he looked at me for about 15 seconds maybe a little more maybe a little less, and I looked at him and he jerked his head to the side and it was noticeable that he knew i knew he was looking at me, and he looked at me a few times after that. He made a little paper football type thing and was pushing it back and forth with a boy, one of the few people he talks to, and then the other boy left. The shy boy I like was just sitting for a while and then aimed at at me and was about to flick it and i was looking at him and so he looked away for a minute then flicked it at my head after i turned my head and smiled and sort of laughed, and we've just been playing little games like that I guess everyday... My question is does he like me at all? I really want to ask him to see a movie with me or something because I'm interested in him, even if he doesn't LIKE me, we can still be friends, and I want to get to know him more. So what are your opinions, and what do you think is the best way to approach him about going to see a movie, the movie comes out in a little under a month so I have some time to think and talk to him more, but anyways... answers please! I really appreciate it, I get kinda hot and cold feelings from him sometimes.

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today he didnt really look at me much at lunch and hes just been really quiet lately... am i intimidating him by being too friendly or does he just not like me? i really wish he would talk more...

Answer 1

Aww that sounds cute lol :). Personally, I'd think that he might like you.



Coming from a guy, if a guy is shy around you then he might be contemplating in his head what to say because he just can't seem to get the thought through his head of what he wants to say, and he never wants to say the wrong thing if he likes the girl.



If he seems extremely shy as to the half way through lunch without speaking then he might be too scared to ask why you're not speaking (he wouldn't know you're testing him, he would take it casually as if something was wrong, and in the most common sense he would think he did something wrong causing you not to speak).



If you're the more talkative one, as I'm assuming through the long paragraph you wrote then you should confront him during lunch. By that I mean you should ask why he's so shy. Don't do this in an outright manner, just lead into the question. It might feel awkward and you might feel shy at first but once you get that over with you might realize that you both would open up a lot more to each other.



If you do like him and you guys have been sitting together for quite a bit then tell him. This is much easier when you two are alone, as opposed to his friends being there so find a time when you want to let it out and you two are alone. If he likes you then all is well and you could ask him to the movie, whereas if he doesn't like you then you could sway the conversation into how he depicts you and so on. I know times like these are stressful but if you do it the weight you carry on your shoulders will feel so might lighter and you'll feel a lot better, despite his answer.



If you think you're intimidating him by being too friendly then you might not be giving him clues that you like him at all. Attempt to go more into the relationship and divert from speaking how you would to your usual friends. Don't do it abruptly, but attempt to get deeper in slowly. The deeper you get in the more confident he becomes with you, which is great for the relationship.

Answer 2

Yes. But I think there's a difference between being coy and desperately shy. Soft spoken can be endearing. But if it's to the extreme of saying, not wanting to go out or something, it cramps a relationship.

Answer 3

He likes you but being shy he may be scared to approach you, you should let things slide for a little while and see if he begins to open up to you more and if he wont ask you out then ask him to hangout with you. Sometimes shy people dont dare to ask because they are scared of rejection but he must be atleast a little interested in you by what you have said. Go for it!

Answer 4

Don't just ask him "out" as in do you want to go out with me, ask him what he is doing this weekend. He will ask "why" at some point of his next sentence like any normal highschooler because they have no idea. Then tell him he you will be picking him up(or ur mom dad whatever) and you want to go to the planetarium with him....(or lame movies but believe me there are better dating sites)



The whole thing is to go out with him, and not ask him out if he is shy. Things will develop swell this way.

Answer 5

I think he s nervous with his guy friends would tease him...so try and corner him and ask him out...point blank.

If he says no, then you move on.

Answer 6

You will always wonder what 'could have been' if you don't make the first move. You can do it without seeming too pushy. Watch out - if you wait too long - some other girl might snap him up from you.

Answer 7

Yeah he likes you ask him to hang out.