Shy guys opinons on this?

Question

Hey, this is a little bit long but please read, thanks in advance!

So there is this extremely shy boy at my school, he is a sophomore I am a freshman. I have a few classes with him and I sit by him at lunch, well across from him. The past few days I've been starting conversations with him saying what's up etc, he's realllly shy like I said, and he really doesn't say much back, lately he's SORT of been opening up a little bit more. I kept trying to steal his assignment notebook and write things in it the other day so he took mine and wrote "_____ is mean" on a few pages, jokingly of course, and lately I've been trying to steal his from him at lunch and he laughs and doesn't let me get it. Today I tried not to talk to him that much to see if he'd talk to him, it was about a fourth/half through the lunch period and he looked at me for about 15 seconds maybe a little more maybe a little less, and I looked at him and he jerked his head to the side and it was noticeable that he knew i knew he was looking at me, and he looked at me a few times after that. He made a little paper football type thing and was pushing it back and forth with a boy, one of the few people he talks to, and then the other boy left. The shy boy I like was just sitting for a while and then aimed at at me and was about to flick it and i was looking at him and so he looked away for a minute then flicked it at my head after i turned my head and smiled and sort of laughed, and we've just been playing little games like that I guess everyday... My question is does he like me at all? I really want to ask him to see a movie with me or something because I'm interested in him, even if he doesn't LIKE me, we can still be friends, and I want to get to know him more. So what are your opinions, and what do you think is the best way to approach him about going to see a movie, the movie comes out in a little under a month so I have some time to think and talk to him more, but anyways... answers please! I really appreciate it, I get kinda hot and cold feelings from him sometimes.

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today he didnt really look at me much at lunch and hes just been really quiet lately... am i intimidating him by being too friendly or does he just not like me? i really wish he would talk more...

Answer 1

I'm sure he likes you. The fact that he is shy (in fact, so shy that you could notice it) means that you must make the first move. We shy people like it when girls make the first move to approach us.



Of course the initial reaction you may get from him is a startle response, which is again, normal for shy people, but if you keep on getting closer to him, he will definitely open up to you.



Shy people usually don't bother with other people so given the fact that he flicks a paper football on you means that he wants your attention. It's our way of calling loud/extroverted people's attentions.



It's normal to get hot and cold feelings from him sometimes because shy people are extremely moody. The thing you have to do is to figure out what ticks him on and when he is happy and ecstatic, like his hobbies/interests.



Just ask him about going to the movies when he is in a good mood, and everything will be fine. Try not to be assertive because shy people hate girls who are assertive.



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Answer 2

I think he does like you! If he doesn't have a lot of friends then he might just want to be your friend because he feels lonely but feel free to ask him to go see the movie. If you do then maybe you can get to know him more but he is not going to talk to you more if you don't get to know him because he is shy.

I'm surprised a girl like you is interested in a shy guy. I thought that girls didn't like shy guys but I know some do. As can see I am a shy guy too. Well good luck!

Answer 3

well considering im very very shy and have experienced what he is going through, he probably honestly is interested in you and probably wants to get to know you.



one thing you could try to get him to talk more is open up to him about a problem you are having and try to get him to give you advice. that will show you if he interested enough to care what you are saying. if he just says "i dont know" or "well sucks for you" or something like that, then he probably isnt very interested.



but it sounds like he is flirting with you so just try what i suggested and see where it all goes.



good luck!

Answer 4

A guy's fear of rejection will outweigh any strong feelings he has for you. He is probably afraid that is he asks you out you will say "I dont like you like that" or worse. More than likely he would rather live with the agony of never knowing how you truly feel than live with the pain of knowing rejection. Ask him out!

Answer 5

sounds like me

anyway, keep talking to him make him feel comfortable, and stuff, and just ask him he wants to go to a movie and make it seem like u like him so he knows... he mite think about it and say yes or no, then later on ask if he wants to hang out

Answer 6

you could have edited your first question btw...



just go out with him already