It bothers me that some people just assume that im gay...even though I am. serious comments only?

Question

Im 17 and a guy and it bothers me to to end that some people just "assume" im gay. I know I am but i havent told anyone. It bugs me that some people are just so judgemental that they dont even give me a chance. They have already classified me...and that hurts. I think that no one should be judged or grouped into a certain catergory no matter how they act. For example I was with one of my good friends who happened to have another friend with him. We all went out for pizza one night with a bunch of friends after a baseball game and he whispered into my friends ear "is he gay or something". And i know by now I shouldnt act this way towards people like that but it just hurts that he would whisper and keep it from me like it was a sin or something. People need to grow up and learn that gays are people too, and were everywhere. Not some sort of confined zoo animal.

Answer 1

Since you haven't come out and it bothers you that people assume you are what you are then you feel that there is something wrong with being gay. I'm gay too and not everyone assumes I am but some people do and it doesn't bother me because there is NOTHING wrong with being gay. It's not different then someone assuming I'm straight.

That's like you being pissed that people assume you are male or black/white. I mean you are so why is it so offensive?

I understand peole making it out to be a bad thing or something. That I understand but in general you shouldn't be mad that people think you are gay if you are.

People have done that to me, my own dad has. I just look up and say "yep, I'm gay... is there a problem with that?"



You should stick up for yourself more if you don't like it. Also what exactly is it that you are doing that's making people assume you are gay. Maybe changing your behavior would help prevent certain reactions from people.



-Connor

Answer 2

This is not a question, this is a statement. :]

But this is a true statement.

I HATE judgmental people.

Im only 13 years old but im straight.

I go to a Catholic School

Since I go to a Catholic School I shouldn't get made fun of for hingout with this one girl.

Her Name is Ashley.

There was a rumor going around that she was lez.

The rumor was that....

Ashley went to her friend Monica's house

and Ashley asked Monica if she wanted to have a lez. fashion show.

Monica said no, how about a regular fashion show.

Ashley didnt say anything.

Monica went into her walk in closet and changed into a cute shirt and jeans.

Ashley gave Monica a 10

so Monica sat in the chair and waited for Ashley to come out.

Ashley came out in a see through slip cover. (a slip that goes under a dress)

She walked over to Monica and got ontop of her and tried to kiss her. (on the lips)

Monica wouldnt let her.

Then Monica's Mom walked in and saw that Ashley was on top of her daughter Monica.

Monica saw her Mom.

Her Mom looked at Monica, then shut the door without it making a noise.

Then her mom knocked and asked if she could come in.

Ashley then hopped off of Monica and ran into the closet and quickle got on one of Monica's outfits and came out.

Monica told her Mom she could come in.

Her Mom then asked what they were doing and Ashley said frantically were having a fashion show.

and Her Mom said okay you girls have fun, dont do anything stupid, and keep the door open.

Ashley's mom called her and Ashley went home.



At school Monica told everyone what happened.

Ashley told people otherwise.

No one believed Ashley.

Ashley didnt have many friends after that.

This was in 5th grade.

We are all in 7th grade now.

So I became Ashleys friend, but i was still Monica's friend.

I Didnt take sides.

Almost every guy In my class called me a lez. because i hung out with Ashley and became her friend.

Most people dont think she is a lez anymore....but some still do.



HATERS!

^^^ I hate them.



You Should Come Outta The Closet. :]

I Think My Friend Brandon Should Come Outta The Closet.

Ima Go Tell Him.









Well I hope my real life experence touched you. :]

Answer 3

we are counseled to marry "basically interior the Lord" or with a fellow believer.....with the help of being "erratically yoked" with an "unbeliever reasons a great form of issues in a marriage. You mentioned which you do no longer care if he's a witness, yet you will possibly on no account advance into one, precise? wonderful! yet interior the lengthy run, how is that going to paintings out for the kin affiliation? do you be responsive to that even the church homes in Christendom are admonished to no longer marry unbelievers for an identical reason....it reasons issues! Has he been re-instated lower back into the congregation? if so, he does not be living with you out of wedlock. How does he actual experience approximately your stance with regards to his faith? have you ever the two stated whether or no longer your baby would be raised as a Witness? those are necessary questions which you the two ought to take a seat and communicate....ideally with the elders interior the congregation. optimistically, issues will paintings out for you. Peace

Answer 4

I get called gay all the time!

Its the way i act, and i admit it!

Wht i dont like is the one's calling me gay are kinda homo!

Im not gay, i act kinda femanime and i feel its the way i wanna act and i should be allowed to!



Fu** the people tht said you were gay and hang out with people tht believe you and like you in whatever way you act! :)



BTW, i have a friend thts gay but tells everyone hes not.. but were really close and i accept him. (He told me this)



So if you are gay and your trying to hide it, dont worry about those people!

Answer 5

I'm sure it's not the fact that people assume that you are gay that bothers you (it's what you are, after all. People know I'm a "fire crotch'. Doesn't bother me. I have red hair.) I think the thing that bothers you is the fact that they refer to it in a derogatory way and instead of talking with you openly and in an adult manner, whisper and point.



I have no real advice to give other than to "come out". As in "Hey, gay boy. What are you, one of those queers?"

"Why yes, I am. Are you a narrow-minded bigot?"



"Is he gay?"

"Yes, I am. You can ask me directly, you know. I'm not ashamed of who I am".

Answer 6

dude, you're gay. what the hell else are people gunna think? You're a horse? this is one of the things i hate about gay people. They say that they don't like being called gay, even though they are. I mean, come on(well not near me anyway), it's probably pretty obvious that you are gay.

Answer 7

UR GAY big deal let the whole world noe there gonna find out sooner than later mite as well save them the trouble

Answer 8

Are you flaming gay? Or do you act gay?



Maybe the friend of the friend didn't want to hurt your feelings and asked so you wouldn't get upset.



Maybe he likes you :-)

Answer 9

i agree with what veelalyn said.

I did that and I actually got respect for it.

be who you are, come out, make the world a happier place :)

Being in the closet raises blood pressure.

Answer 10

bust them in there face be like iam gay but i'll make you suck my dick !

Answer 11

u a gay bhoy lol

Answer 12

exactly. you should just be like, if you have a question like that, you can askme straight up.

Answer 13

True.