Question:
Is it normal for an ex to masturbate to pictures of you and admit it?
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2010-03-07 07:15:42 UTC
I have a complicated relationship with my ex. He broke up with me because we are living 200 000 miles apart and had been for 4 months when he met somone else. I was devastated, as before this he had promised to move to be with me. I told myself he just wasnt able or ready to make the move. We remained in contact but precariously. Almost every time we talk though, He makes comments of a sexual nature and recently talked me into webcam sex. He hits on me but he still acts distant and resentful so I tell myself he is just toying with me, however when I knew him I wouldnt say he was that type of person at all. He also admitted to masturbating to pictures of me; both old pics of a sexual nature (which he had previously told me he had destroyed) and also current pics fully clothed from my facebook and said that if I were to visit he wouldnt be able to stop himself making advances on me. This has left me very confused. I would not say he is normally the type to cheat at all but he has been in a relationship with this other girl for a year now, while I have been heart-broken and single but am recently returned to normal emotional health. I held out hope for us to remain friends and to talk to his family who I love to death however we can hardly talk anymore without resentful words due to hurt feelings and things that were said in the past. I have had to admit to myself I was hoping that one day we might reconcile, but now I see that is probably never going to be a possibility. My question; is what he told me about masturbating to my picture, (particularly fully clothed) is this normal and what does it mean? Does he still have feelings for me? We recently fought and I am again thinkin we should cut off contact for good but am finding it difficult. Should I tell his new girlfriend about what has been happening? If he had behaved this way when we were together it would have killed me. PLEASE HELP
Four answers:
Medic Tiffany W
2010-03-11 07:11:42 UTC
actually it is not normal.....



and do not make webcam sex with him because there is a possibility that he is recording it....



he is weird + if he has girlfriend....it is not normal to masturbate to pictures of you!!

+ when he makes sex with his current girlfriend - he think of you....
bender_xr217
2010-03-07 07:26:23 UTC
He is still attracted to you. What he resents is not being able to be with you due to circumstances beyond the control of either of you. I don't think he resents you personally, it's the situation he resents, and he is probably not very good at articulating how he feels about it so it comes across as negativity towards you.

He masturbates to your images because that's all he really has with you other then the occasional chat session, and the fact that he is a guy and, well... that's what guys do. He probably told you about it as a way to express to you that he still is very much attracted to you.

I think that if you two lived closer together the whole dynamics of your relationship would change and normalize. However, if you don't see that happening anytime soon, you probably should just fade away from him and move on.
?
2010-03-07 07:35:31 UTC
Okay,If this guy is still with someone and admitted it it is a little weird why masturbate over his EX when he is with someone,He is most likely still attracted to you but not IN LOVE with you.If he wants to get back together with you and continues to hit on you in my advice DON'T DO IT he has lied to you once whats to stop him doing it again?
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2010-03-07 07:18:27 UTC
bet all guys do...not a problem for me cos I do it thinking of ex bfs


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