Question:
Cause for husbands soft erection?
Lacy
2011-09-18 15:28:38 UTC
My husband and I have been together for 9 years and the entire time we have been together he has never had a rock hard stiff erection. His penis always seem to remain somewhat floppy even when it's "hard". He is only 32 years old and smokes a pack a day, and has about 2 alcohol drinks/day, I just don't think it's lifestyle related. That shouldn't have affected him when he was a young horny 23 year old. What could be causing this and is it possible to correct it, or am I doomed to never feel a hard penis again?
28 answers:
anonymous
2011-09-18 17:00:47 UTC
It is possible that your husband is developing erectile dysfunction (ED). Which is certainly treatable. His next step is to visit a UROLOGIST, not just a general practitioner, and get diagnosed. He may at first be ashamed to do this, but you will need to be reassuring and convincing. Offer to go with him, just to let him know how important this is to you. He'll probably decline, and go by himself, but at least he will go.



In most cases, the urologist will prescribe an ED med. Cialis, Viagra, or Levitra. My husband has ED, and we use Cialis for the weekends, and Viagra during the week. He likes the Cialis because it does not cause blurred vision, like the Viagra, which he can only take an hour before bedtiime. I like the Cialis too because it works for 48 hours, allowing spontaneous sex throughout the weekend, but the Viagra is far more effective, which I like better when he takes it. Yes, he gets erect with Cialis, but with Viagra, I could hang my heaviest winter coat on his penis. Plus we have to do it longer with Viagra before he ejactulates, which I certainly don't have a problem with.



An erection is based on blood circulation, and smoking hampers that blood circulation. He needs to quit! I say that carefully because I am a smoker, and all of my attempts to quit have failed miserably. Fortunately, not only does my husband not smoke, but he is quite tolerant of my smoking. Overweight conditions can also contribute to ED.



You might also enjoy the Yahoo Group "Support for partners of men with ED", http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/supportEDpartners/. It is a discussion group all about ED, with men that have it, and with women that are victims of it. Good luck!
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2016-11-05 11:00:18 UTC
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2016-05-22 00:51:56 UTC
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2016-12-23 04:36:09 UTC
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2014-09-13 22:24:16 UTC
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anonymous
2015-06-13 18:30:51 UTC
Greetings. My name's Jack Grave, an M.D in the field of Sexual Health. (Both Men and Women's) .. First of all, as you've likely already suspected, there is NO SUCH THING AS "PENIS ENLARGEMENT." Period. Over the years, our practice here in Santa Monica, CA been flooded with countless inquiries regarding How To make the male-organ larger in size. The medical consensus on this issue is rather clear- it is not physically possible. As a general rule, your Genetics will ultimately predetermine the size of your penis. There have been many claims out there about "natural exercises" that can allegedly induce penile-growth. We find that these 'magic' exercises revolve around what is called the "kegal" muscle, located between the anus and scrotum. This is the muscle squeezed to stop the flow of urination, which, when exercised regularly, can also promote significant blood flow to your erections. The end result may be what appears to be size increase, but rather it is your own erection- Now fuller and firmer than it was before.



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ordinario
2011-09-19 03:00:19 UTC
Even men who are under 30 can suffer from erectile dysfunction. ED can be caused by psychological and physical reasons. If he is able to achieve a hard erection while masturbation, then the reason for his softer erections may be psychological, perhaps related to performance anxiety, which many men experience if they are trying too hard to please. If this is not the case, then his ED is caused by a medical condition, usually related to the health of his arteries. Smoking can restrict the arteries and cause ED. Drinking alcohol, including beer, can also affect erections negatively.
Ruth
2014-05-26 14:53:08 UTC
Many men suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED) -- the inability to achieve and sustain an erection long enough to have enjoyable and fulfilling sex. For a variety of reasons ED is most common in men over 45. The sex drive is often lowered even further in older men who are taking medications of various kinds.

Most of us assume the sex drive gradually diminishes as we get older, so we are prepared to accept ED as a natural condition. But the fact is, the inability for many men to sustain an erection may be more the result of treatable physical conditions rather than an actual loss of sex drive.

Until the early 1980s most people -- including most trained urologists -- assumed that ED was basically a mental or psychological problem. But in 1983 at a presentation to the American Urological Association, Dr. Gilbert M demonstrated that a penis could be made erect by injecting it with the drug phentolamine. In a public demonstration, he used his own penis to make the point.

Gil had discovered that the penis could be made erect by relaxing the normally constricted blood vessels leading into it. Once the blood vessels are relaxed, they let in more blood and the penis inflates something like a balloon to form an erection.



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Variable 46
2011-09-18 15:44:51 UTC
Think of a man's body as a car. Some of them are go-karts. Give them a simple shove, and they'll reach the bottom of the hill every time. Very predictably too and with little finesse. And some other men are more finely tuned. Everything has to click just right to make it happen. It's more complicated, but the ride is usually worth it.



With that philosophy in mind, I'll add that not all men are created the same. The circumstances of your husband's soft erection are probably physical though, and he should consult a physician. It's usually a matter of blood flow ... and ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? Smoking and drinking, even in the amounts you seem to consider are minor, are HUGE factors in this. Both of them work very well to inhibit blood flow. My suggestion is he stop smoking, stop drinking, start working out, get in shape, lift weights at least 3 days a week enough to build some muscle tone, take a zinc supplement and encourage him to masturbate every day that you two don't have sex. Twice a day if you can get him to do it. EXCEPT if you two have like a "date for sex" then he should refrain from masturbating for 3 or 4 days prior. If his body has become accustomed to ejaculating twice a day and then suddenly it goes 3 or 4 days without...that might put some more stiffness in his erection. Also, help him manage his stress level, and make sure he's getting enough sleep.



I'm not trying to be ribald, I'm trying to be honest. Having sex is like playing a physical sport, and we have to stay in shape for it. The things I've mentioned are ways to keep his testosterone levels up and his body (including his penis) in shape for sex.



And he should also swallow his embarrassment and see his doctor. There are treatments he can try to reinforce his situation. He should also have his testosterone level checked...men of any age can have low testosterone levels, and there are supplements he can take to change this.



This is a difficult topic for most men to discuss. He's probably well aware of the problem, but too embarrassed to discuss it with you or his doctor. You'll have to figure out a tactful and sensitive way to discuss it with him, and encourage him to do something about it.



I've mostly written about the physical issues involved, but there are possible emotional and mental issues too. E-mail me if you wish to discuss further...as adults, I assure you.
anonymous
2015-01-28 14:29:26 UTC
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Erectile dysfunction can result from a problem with any of these. Likewise, stress and mental health problems can cause or worsen erectile dysfunction. Sometimes a combination of physical and psychological issues causes erectile dysfunction. For instance, a minor physical problem that slows your sexual response may cause anxiety about maintaining an erection. The resulting anxiety can lead to or worsen erectile dysfunction.
anonymous
2015-08-18 19:07:45 UTC
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2016-04-23 03:38:36 UTC
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Deneen
2016-02-15 20:30:52 UTC
Unfortunately, many of the drugs on the market today that are designed to treat various conditions, have side effects that include the degradation of male sexual performance. The most common of these are blood pressure medications, but there are many others.



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If that’s the case, your doctor can prescribe you an alternative to help alleviate the problem.
anonymous
2011-09-18 15:41:13 UTC
He either thinks too much about it, or he's not aroused enough.

He may need a quicker picker upper. Look into those things like Viagra.

Lifestyle like cigarettes and drinking wouldn't do it. I've known guys who did more, and had no problems.
Rav D
2011-09-18 15:42:38 UTC
First ask him to drop the packet of cigarette to just 1-3 a day,and ask him to drink alcohol 2-3 times a week if he is reluctant on daily basis.And also ask him to join any gym and eat healthy food.take proper rest.If he follows this routine you ca see results within 1 month.best of luck :)
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2017-03-15 04:30:19 UTC
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anonymous
2011-09-18 15:33:18 UTC
If you love him you shouldn't be worried about that. Maybe you could use a toy on the side lol
?
2011-09-18 15:48:20 UTC
He needs to slow down with alcohol and cigeret and he needs to take a walk a day and eat health that will help
anonymous
2016-04-15 10:04:03 UTC
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2011-09-18 15:51:44 UTC
you know what you should do? get more sexy. show him your wild side. sure youve been married for 9 years, but do something new and exciting something he's never seen before, but not to crazy either. Make it a night to remember. Im sure itl wake up his limp penis
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anonymous
2011-09-18 15:51:48 UTC
its because of him smoking. smoking restricts blood flow to the penis that's why his penis isn't really hard another word for this is erectile dis function and dint worry this is actually really common go to the doctor and they could give him testosterone to make his penis hard when your having sex or he can take viagra
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2016-11-10 22:50:40 UTC
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Jeremy T
2011-09-18 15:35:03 UTC
is he the only person makin the moves cuz i know it makes more hard when the woman gives me pleasure n all i gota do is lay there for a lil bit. u bn together for 9yrs idk tho mayb he just like that
Barcode
2011-09-18 15:35:23 UTC
Sounds like his lifestyle finally caught up with him. Make some changes.

No smoking - no beer/ale - no booze - no drugs. ANY of these can interrupt blood flow to his penis resulting in diminished libido & cause erectile dysfunction or impotence.

Stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue, crappy diet, lack of exercise, & some medications can also cause malfunction at the junction.



The following article could prove beneficial to him:





Improve Sexual Virility - (For Guys)



Many men suffer from a low sex drive, sexual performance problems, and an overall lack of male virility. These problems can negatively impact a man's self-esteem, sense of self-worth, and the quality of his romantic relationships. However, problems with male virility and sexual functioning can be, in most cases, remedied. What follows is a list of lifestyle, health, and dietary factors that promote strong male virility and improved sexual function and performance.



Step 1 - GET ADEQUATE SLEEP



Your body needs adequate amounts of sleep in order to maximize sexual performance and sexual virility. A lack of sleep is a major cause of low sex drive and/or sexual problems. Strive to get at least 7-9 hours of sleep each night to increase and maintain sexual virility. Take afternoon rests or naps when possible.



Step 2 - DE-STRESS REGULARLY



Chronic stress is toxic to the body and can negatively impact sexual virility and sexual function. Strive to keep stress levels as low as possible in order to maximize not only your health and well-being, but to increase your sexual virility and sex drive. Meditate on a regular basis; do yoga moves in addition to deep breathing exercises to help unwind and de-stress.



Step 3 - EXERCISE REGULARLY



In addition to improving mental and physical health, regular exercise promotes healthy sexual function and helps to improve sexual virility. Aim to exercise at least 4-5 times per week, incorporating moderate cardiovascular exercise in addition to strength training. Regular exercise promotes healthy blood circulation and increases testosterone and growth hormone levels, all of which promote increased sexual virility and sexual function.



Step 4 - ELIMINATE JUNK FOOD



Eating a healthy diet promotes physical and emotional health as well as healthy sexual function and virility. A poor diet, one lacking in adequate nutrients and antioxidants, can result in a low sex drive and sexual performance problems, including impotence. Eat a diet heavy in fruits and vegetables, whole grains, lean cuts of meat and fish, and low-fat dairy to increase sexual virility and improve sexual function.



Step 5 - ADD GARLIC TO YOUR DIET



Garlic is rich in allicin, which can improve blood flow to the sexual organs, which in turn promotes healthy sexual function and strong, hard erections. Cut up some garlic and sprinkle it on your favorite foods. Or take a garlic supplement. Garlic is a sexual super food that can increase your sexual virility.



Step 6 - ADD AVOCADO TO YOUR DIET



Avocados are rich in folic acid and high in vitamin B6, both of which help to regulate sexual hormone function, which in turn helps to optimize sexual health and sexual virility. Add some avocado slices to your salad or on your sandwich.



Step 7 - EAT A BANANA DAILY



Bananas are another sexual super food that can help improve sexual function and increase sexual virility. Bananas are high in bromelain and b vitamins, both of which are potent sexual hormone regulators that can help improve sexual function, sexual desire, and sexual virility. Add a banana to your daily diet.


This content was originally posted on Y! Answers, a Q&A website that shut down in 2021.
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